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Build Habits

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I am notoriously bad at remembering to take my vitamins, plus the iron makes me queasy if I take it in the morning, so instead of stashing them in the cupboard, I put a cup and my bottle of vitamins on the bedroom dresser, next to my lamp. Now, before I turn off the light, I swallow the vitamin for the day and go to sleep. I rarely forget. I never get queasy. I don’t know if my vitamin consumption habits have definitively helped improve my sleep quality, but I can say this: I’m sleeping through the night for the first time in a long time. I used to wake up every couple of hours, and now I sleep straight through more often than not! I can’t tell you how exciting that is, but I digress.

My point wasn’t to take your vitamin at night to sleep better. My point is any daily task–like taking a vitamin–can be habitualized. I suspect tying the habit to a daily ritual (getting ready for bed) is what worked for me. Every night, I brush my teeth, I get fresh water in my cup, I take my vitamin, and I turn off the light. Then I go to sleep.

This made me wonder: what other simple, but often forgotten, tasks could I or others make habitual? And would tying them to a specific time, location, daily ritual, or other event help me (or them) continue the habit until it becomes second-nature? My guess is YES.

I’m going to keep a look out for those opportunities to hack my lazy brain into a mean, lean,  house-cleaning machine!

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In Praise of Imperfection

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Oh, goodness. Has it really been a month already?

So much is going on, and yet, at the same time, not a lot is going on in my life. I’ve had bursts of energy, spurts of hyper-extroversion in which I enjoyed lots of time with friends, extended periods of hyper-introversion in which I spent lots of time perched on my couch with a laptop while thinking or writing. I’ve had ups. I’ve had downs.

I’ve tried to eat healthier lately. I found out I have a mild case of hypothyroidism, on which I’d love to blame my steady weight gain since graduation from high school. Alas, I know the truth. I’ve had one too many McDonald’s value meals and never met a brownie I didn’t like. But that, among other things, has made me realize even more that what we eat truly does affect us. I’ve also tried to work out more. But don’t ask me how many times I’ve been to the gym or out for a run this week, because I couldn’t answer you. Although I do plan on going today. But even if that doesn’t happen, I feel stronger just knowing I’m taking my health seriously and I’m focusing on nutrition and activity to overcome migraines, hormone imbalances, and excess weight. I’m not trying to have a perfect diet or activity level all the time, but MOST of the time would be wonderful! I’m sure I’d feel so much better if I did.

I also think I’m in a down-cycle right now creatively. I need lots and lots of down time. Outside of working on a novel and experimenting with “clean” or “Paleo” recipes for dinner, I’ve not been super crafty or even productive. I’ve been focusing on improving things that aren’t really blog-worthy. Like, for instance, finally getting the hang of staying on top of doing my dishes. I know. It is shameful. I’m a grown woman who hates doing the dishes. I think it is latent rebellion against my grandfather who would insist I help my grandmother with the dishes immediately following a meal when I’d rather be out running around in the backyard. Grandpa would be glad to know I have finally understood why he was so insistent about that. When my counter looks like a mess and my sink is full, it seems the rest of the house follows suit not long after. It’s a pride thing. I guess that’s why Fly Lady says to start by polishing your sink.

It’s true part of the down-cycle is simply burn out from being productive for so long. (Can I get an Amen?!) However, it’s also true that I’ve avoided Pinterest for long periods of time, cut back on my Facebook time, ignored Twitter, and let my Google Reader feed get backlogged. It’s really easy to be busy without really doing anything. It’s also tempting to want all the pretty things I can’t buy or make. Suddenly my blank walls seem depressing when I see decorated ones. My lack of a headboard for my bed is lame and lazy. My bathroom’s cabinet chaos is embarrassing. Yet when I tune out the social media influences, I find myself content with my bare walls. I don’t envy the amazing DIYer’s tufted headboard. I don’t worry that I have yet to create a cute and functional first aid kit and have instead used a hand-me-down from the 80s that holds the gauze and Band-Aids just as well. I rejoice in the fact that I am living within my means. I am using what I have. I am focusing on being grateful for the present reality instead of eternally looking forward to deceptively better future.

How about you? Have you embraced simplicity for stretches of time? Have you been inspired or exhausted by the social media noise? Do you feel embarrassed if you haven’t produced something tangible to show off in a few weeks? Do you long for just living in your imperfect home with your imperfect family and laughing away the imperfect moments?

You’re not alone. I’m right there with you. And you know what? I think it is healthy! Take a sabbatical from perfection and thrive in all your imperfect glory.

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What’s in a Name?

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Oh, boy. I broke the cardinal rule of blogging: I didn’t buy my own domain name when I started this blog. I know, I know! What was I thinking?

Last month, I decided I wanted to go ahead and buy it at last. WordPress kept reminding me I could do so and because they did, I didn’t think it would be a problem to wait awhile before making the hosting and domain registration commitment. Last month, though, I saw something new. My dashboard no longer told me I could register a .com address. It told me I could register a .net.

Uh-oh.

Somebody just bought the domain. Now that I want to update the blog and do a re-design outside of the constraints of WordPress.com, that actually matters to me. I emailed the owner of the blog domain, offering to pay for it, but I did not get a response.

So now I need to find a new name. Everyone I’ve talked to about this is sad and told me they like Behind Closed Drawers because it has a nice sound, is descriptive, and a fun play on words. I could keep the name if I bought a domain with the name plus “blog” at the end of it. What do you think about that? Is the extra word unwieldy and too long? Should I try to keep my name, or does one of the options below work as well or better?

I would love to have your input on this! I talked to some friends and gave them a long list of options and  they narrowed it down. I’m adding a poll for potential blog names; if you would take a moment to vote, I would be very grateful.

Thank you in advance for your help,

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Celebrating Small Victories

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After taking my shower this morning, I was getting ready for the day and I looked at the floor next to my shower and I couldn’t take it any longer. I’ve noticed it for a couple of days now and had ignored it to get on with my day, but this morning I felt a compulsion to wipe the floor and side of the tub down to get rid of the dust that had accumulated and gotten damp.

I had a compulsion. To clean.

I’m not sure how to explain how huge this is for me. I’ve been working for most of my adult life to get myself to have those compulsions. My childhood little messy girl had stayed with me for far too long.

I’ve said before that this journey to home organization is a lot like weight loss. It is tough, requires accountability and self-discipline, and there is some shame in admitting you have a problem. Well, in this case it is definitely like weight loss in a positive way, because while it takes awhile, eventually you start getting used to eating healthier. You start reaching for the whole grain pasta or the wheat bread over the white bread. Walking or working out becomes a habit instead of a chore. It does happen, and when it happens you wake up one day and realize you’re actually looking forward to your trip to the gym. Then you step on the scale, and you discover you’ve lost two pounds.

That’s what this is like.

Slowly, over the past year, I’ve been reaching for that sponge to wipe down the tub, or the broom to sweep the floor. I’ve tackled dishes before they became a mountain. I’ve purged the refrigerator before adding the new groceries to it. I’ve made regular trips to our local thrift shops to donate items I realize I don’t use. I’ve even kept the laundry to a dull roar recently. The funny thing is, I didn’t even notice it happening. It just happened. I’m not perfect–far, far from it–but I’m on my way, and that is a great place to be!

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What’s Holding You Back?

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Is it outside work? Is it exhaustion? Confusion? Frustration? Fear?

It can be overcome. I promise.

Room by room, closet by closet, cupboard by cupboard, drawer by drawer, you CAN get organized. Even more importantly, once you find an organizational structure that works for you, it will begin to be self-sustaining, provided you continue to follow it. Each time, it will require less effort, as things begin to have a place and you remember to put them in it. There will be fewer battles, freeing up your energy and mind to focus on the remaining trouble spots in your home and life.

Just like losing weight, the more you lose and maintain a weight loss, the fewer pounds (or, in our case, organizational trouble spots) you have to worry about.

But you have to be willing to let go first.

I’m a fan of the reality show The Biggest Loser. In it, contestants work with personal trainers and nutritionists to lose excess weight and become stronger and healthier individuals. Inevitably, some–if not all–of the contestants discover that the process is a difficult one. Their trainers talk to them and try to find out what from their past or present is keeping them from giving their all. Sometimes, they don’t feel worthy. Other times, they retain scars from past relationships or cling to excuses. Little by little, the layers of emotional baggage are discarded, even as the weight is, until a newer and stronger person emerges. By the end of the show, they have the skills and knowledge required to maintain their new lifestyle. While the last 10 or 20 pounds are difficult for them to release they are not encumbered by the rest of the excessive weight that had been on their bodies and they are at their peak physical condition. They have the knowledge required to continue being healthy and have built upon weeks of success.

But first, they had to shed not only their weight but also their self-imposed barriers.

It’s the same way with creating a restful, orderly environment for yourself and your family in your home. There will be some early victories. There will also be increased resistance from within yourself and outside forces as you continue to grow. It can get discouraging when you don’t see faster results. Stick with it.

So what is your barrier?

Mine is pure and simple laziness as well as a lot of pursuits that fascinate me more than cleaning my home (or working out to lose weight, for that matter.) I have to admit, sometimes I’m afraid I’ll give up and just call it a lost cause. If I fail, it’s going to be embarrassing.

I’m also afraid of not just failure … but success as well. What happens when I’ve got a completely organized home? Will I keep it that way? Will I relapse? Will family and friends who have read this blog be disappointed in me if I get lazy and start to slack off? What if I don’t want to be organized 24/7?

Oh, it doesn’t stop.

The bottom line is: keep on going. Don’t give up. Just like the contestants on The Biggest Loser discover every season, good things come to those who put themselves out there, do their homework, and just keep pushing, no matter what. Acknowledge what is holding you back; confront it; accept it … and move on. You can do it. I can do it. I’m counting on it.

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Little Resolutions

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Who says December 31st or January 1st get to have all the fun? Today is February 1st, and I have a few resolutions to make for this month.

I resolve to:

  1. Not leave the butter out overnight so I waste 3/4 of a perfectly good stick of organic butter. This keeps happening. It must stop.
  2. Find my favorite jeggings that disappeared (perhaps in the perpetually unwashed laundry pile?) Which reminds me …
  3. Sort through my clothes–again. Seriously. I think they breed. I have more clothes than I want to launder on a regular basis, yet I never seem to have stylish outfits ready to wear. Something’s off here.
  4. Recycle something. Anything. I do care, I just … forget.
  5. Make our bed in the morning more often than not.
  6. Play my poor neglected electric keyboard. I see you sitting quietly across from me in my living room, friend. I just get caught up in Pinterest land during my free time and so my fingers are rusty. Please forgive me.

Do you have any little resolutions? I’d love to hear them!

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Take a Breath. Life Happens.

It’s hard to believe that January is already coming to a close. I never believed it as a kid, but time really does fly.

Today I wanted to take a moment to stop and reflect and see how far this organizational/decluttering journey of mine has come. Last night, a dear friend of mine wanted to come over and talk, on a whim. It was so nice to just say “come on over!” and not be running all around to clean up for once.

My house is not perfect. In fact, at this point there is clutter in the living room, little muddy dog prints on the tile floor (I just mopped it a short time ago and already it needs it again. Thanks for nothing, rain), and dishes I haven’t done are sitting on the kitchen counter. I can see them from my couch.

But it isn’t terrible, either.

I find it easy to get caught up in the fact that I haven’t cleaned my living areas enough and it wasn’t ready for a home decorating magazine beauty shot. But the reality is I don’t live on a set, and neither do you. Life happens.

Let it.

And then go wash the dishes. Kinda like I’m going to do now …

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